Wednesday, August 6, 2008

My family

In my student life (specially when I was studying in college and university) I saw many unhappy families, bad relationship of husbands and wives in their conjugal lives that lead me to make decision of not getting married. I really decided not to get married but when I saw Tora (My wife later) I forgot about my decision. It seemed to me that time that this is the girl whom I was looking for throughout my life. I was sure that she would be my best friend and life partner. We both fell in love and were passing time happily. We got married later and Tora became my real best friend. We got a new life and my vagabond life ended in this way.
Our first child ‘Moin’ was born after five years of our marriage. Getting him our lives became more beautiful. We were passing our happy days with him. When Moin was seven years old we got our second child (that time a female child) Radia. Our lives became full to the brim. Radia is now three years running. Moin, Radia and Tora are my world now.

I am a happy man. Most of the people of the world have problem. I also have problem like; financial problem and some physical problems. But whenever I stay with them I forget about all the problems.

I am the tutor of my children. Tora is also my student. She learns English from me. She is very much eager to learn English. She would like to talk fluently in English.I have to answers hundreds of questions of my children and wife almost everyday. Sometimes I become tired of answering questions but most of the time I love to answer. My children move around me when they get me at residence. Radia says, “Baba (father) feed me, take me to the bathroom, clean me, tell me story etc”. Moin used to do so when he was at Radia’s age. Moin sometimes asks me some strange questions like, why are the men born, why do they die? And also many computer related questions. I can not answer his entire questions at times. Moin is now ten years old and is studying in Monipur high school in class four. He would like to be a computer scientist. He loves to play with computers whenever he gets times. Somewhere he is more advanced than me in computer My children and wife likes hearing song and also to sing (I too).

Tora is partner of my all the well and woe. We share our happiness, sorrows, tensions and anxieties to each other. There is nothing secret in between us. I think this is essential to be happy in conjugal life. I have seen many girl/women in my life but Tora is exceptional. I never had seen a good girl like her. I am really fortunate to have her as my friend/wife/life partner.


David Sasaki said...

Rafiq, this is such a beautiful post. And it seems that your beautiful family is worthy of such an homage. Maybe one day I too will end my vagabond life. I hope that I can meet your family very soon in Dhaka - especiallly since Tora is learning to speak English!

Isn't it amazing how kids are able to learn so much about computers at such a young age? These days it is almost always the kids teaching the adults ... at least when it comes to computers.

bint battuta said...

Wow, this is a wonderful post, it's beautiful to hear of such a great marriage. I wish you all the best!


lova said...

Hello Rafiq,

You have a beautiful family and your journey from pondering a bachelor's life to raising a family is inspiring.

rafiq said...

Thanks a lot for your nice comments on my blog. I really believe that people need to trust/belief whom they want to be their friend/wife and must share their happiness and sorrows etc and they must help each other as and when needed. If people do it they must be happy in their married life and or get someone who is really his/her friend as we know a friend in need is a friend indeed.
You are most welcome in Bangladesh and also in my residence
Yes, sometimes we have to learn things from kids

rafiq said...

Hi Ayesha
Thanks for your comments
Your comments will encourage the bloggers to write more on different topics
I really believe what I wrote in my blog and also answer to David's comments

rafiq said...

Hello Lova
Thanks for your comments
I believe that family life is essential for world peace. Probably you know about the famous saying- "a bachelor lives like a prince but dies like dog'. People might differ but I think family life can give a man/woman completeness and it is essential for the development of a country and world peace.More family life can change the world. I hope to write more on it later